tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-59022815052203987832024-03-13T12:38:09.633-07:00True Love - Lost and FoundTaking a second look at AIDS, HIV, Family, Relationship, Sex, Abstinence and True LoveFamily Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-117415926956995232011-05-19T23:22:00.000-07:002011-05-19T23:22:46.774-07:00How to Avoid Sexual Temptation<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIIWz158IUciUtNxDoLAw1hy77tS10Cqpbz4BO6OK0JVV-4qoHMHBxG3MaAHgzB2shE-GCIN0PUeyvcNWdz3zCk1HMDIUHDHL2oyrQ6kqOpQyJbLVkgix5gDWU98SwJeoL3nZPPHN0YKK3/s1600/how-to-avoid-sexual-temptation-sin-single-christians-satan-weakness-bible-jesus.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIIWz158IUciUtNxDoLAw1hy77tS10Cqpbz4BO6OK0JVV-4qoHMHBxG3MaAHgzB2shE-GCIN0PUeyvcNWdz3zCk1HMDIUHDHL2oyrQ6kqOpQyJbLVkgix5gDWU98SwJeoL3nZPPHN0YKK3/s1600/how-to-avoid-sexual-temptation-sin-single-christians-satan-weakness-bible-jesus.jpg" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Satan Knows Your Weakness</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"></span></b>Excerpt from "<a href="http://kimontheweb.com/books/">How to Date and Stay Safe</a>"</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">You may be praying in the Spirit and going weeks without falling into sexual sin, but then the next thing you know, seemingly out of the blue, here comes this fine sister with everything you like and all the right curves just how you like them asking for your phone number.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Know that satan knows your weakness, ladies and gentlemen, and even during periods of sincere consecration he will send exactly what you like right in front of your face in order to tempt you.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Remember, satan tempted Jesus in the wilderness after Jesus fasted 40 days. What’s the first thing a man wants after having not eaten 40 days straight – food! So the next thing you know Jesus is in the wilderness with satan and the first thing satan tries to tempt Jesus with is challenging Him to turn stones into bread so He could eat (Matthew 4:2-3)<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">In the same manner, you may have gone 40 days without sex, you may have read this book and said you were going to read at least a Scripture a day and pray for at least 30 minutes each morning, but on the 41st day here comes that old boyfriend calling, asking if he can come over. Know that at your weakest point, satan may send you something that may look good to the eye, but is totally bad for you.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">For every temptation sent your way, know that God will always create a way of escape for you (1 Corinthians 10:13).<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Don’t even allow the enemy to open any doors in your life,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Close any and all doors immediately.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Do not call that ex back and definitely do not stop by and visit, I don’t care how much you try and convince yourself that you just want to go over there and have Bible study. Again, don’t trust yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><br />
</span></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-83719597130630235012011-05-19T00:36:00.000-07:002011-05-19T00:36:05.860-07:007 Ways To A Lasting Marriage<div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">By <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_851337208">Sharon M. Rivkin</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;"><a href="http://www.sharonrivkin.com/"> </a></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBQSZT_CnCZjfzye3SDkGfAfvk3kqCtq4CJC5vKTyNwpWZbcDiE3dMBvbH2LEIb0feY98iUUfWvHciXi1aitDiliZG57AzM8QNZSnmaVu9jbNl7i6_d2KciyiT4UzYVcEpA-6uxoLg60Kn/s1600/7-ways-to-make-your-marriage-last-longer-couple-wedding.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgBQSZT_CnCZjfzye3SDkGfAfvk3kqCtq4CJC5vKTyNwpWZbcDiE3dMBvbH2LEIb0feY98iUUfWvHciXi1aitDiliZG57AzM8QNZSnmaVu9jbNl7i6_d2KciyiT4UzYVcEpA-6uxoLg60Kn/s400/7-ways-to-make-your-marriage-last-longer-couple-wedding.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">Marriage is supposed to last forever, isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually think that’s all we’ll need to be happy. However, when reality sets in and we have our first real argument, we get hit with the realization that our spouse isn’t perfect.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">In the beginning of a relationship we do our best to give our partner the benefit of the doubt, expressing our love and goodwill, even when we’re upset. However, as time goes on it can get harder to resolve arguments and, therefore, harder to feel loving and forgiving towards our partner. It’s at these times that we start to ask ourselves, is there a secret to making a marriage last? Is it really possible to live happily ever after? Can I make my marriage divorce-proof? The answer to all of these questions is, "Yes!" However, the hardest question to answer is: How do we do it? How do I have a lasting, happy marriage that doesn’t end in divorce court?<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>1. Keep the lines of communication open.</b> If you don’t know how to express your feelings and/or have poor listening skills, learn to get better at both. You can read a book, take a class, or get into counseling. Good communication requires both the ability to express and listen.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>2. Don’t sweep your fights under the rug and think they’ll magically resolve themselves.</b> Do your best to resolve your first argument as soon as it arises so you won’t have the same argument for the next fifty years, in different forms.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>3. Remember that you love your spouse; therefore, you want the best for her/him.</b> Give her/him the benefit of the doubt when you feel angry, hurt or disappointed. Talk to your partner; don’t make assumptions.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>4. Don't take your spouse for granted.</b> Tell your partner every day something you appreciate about her/him and how grateful you are to have them in your life.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>5. Your spouse should never feel like your enemy.</b> If they do, something is wrong; remember that you fell in love with this person. If there’s so much anger that you feel like you are enemies, get help somewhere as quickly as possible.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>6. Gauge your marriage.</b> Notice and don’t ignore the warning signs if you’re not talking, sex has diminished, you’re fighting all the time and you’re not happy. The sooner you acknowledge you’re having problems, the sooner you can begin to solve them.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><b>7. Always remember that you have the power to change behaviours in your marriage through different tools of self-discovery.</b> You don’t have to stay stuck in unhealthy ruts.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt;">A long-lasting marriage can be accomplished by anyone who is willing to take the time and energy to make their marriage a priority in their life. Nurture your marriage as it so richly deserves! You can live happily ever after, not with magic, but with work, awareness and knowledge of yourself and your partner.<o:p></o:p></span></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-4098307184894576482011-04-21T07:13:00.000-07:002011-04-21T07:13:01.417-07:00What is True Love?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://salvationsystem.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/lk_a1779.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="http://salvationsystem.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/lk_a1779.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">True Love is a heart that gives & gives and wants to continue giving.</span></b><br />
Love is powerful. If you grab hold of love and pull, you can pull the whole world with you, similar to the way that you can pull a person along simply by pulling on a single strand of his hair. We ourselves have no power. We lack even the ability to cause a single dandelion by the side of the road to bloom. So the only way we can live is to rely on each other's love. True love is a love that loves but then forgets even the fact that it loved, and then loves again. As we continue to love in this way, our selfish mind will disappear completely. The heart that sacrifices in this way is the heart of true love. <b><a href="http://www.realrevmoon.blogspot.com/">Rev Sun Myung Moon</a></b>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-51432567233809993382011-04-21T06:51:00.000-07:002011-04-21T06:51:22.968-07:00Is Everyone Doing It?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">How should you respond when people in your high school say,</span></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">"Everyone is doing it?"</span></b></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwWZKLP3J5EmJWMo0SNji7_kCCkWy9tEDsw3CNMhlZIZAou3HRhM3nCz7GVelX2Cw9RNl3yGHyREXx4WvLD91NGm6FytsmD3m2mEl1USNHmt73eYIXuaoveN2-wZ2Z7BQiqTMAyKUSZCg/s320/virginity+rocks.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwWZKLP3J5EmJWMo0SNji7_kCCkWy9tEDsw3CNMhlZIZAou3HRhM3nCz7GVelX2Cw9RNl3yGHyREXx4WvLD91NGm6FytsmD3m2mEl1USNHmt73eYIXuaoveN2-wZ2Z7BQiqTMAyKUSZCg/s320/virginity+rocks.jpg" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">You could respond in any number of ways.</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">For one, you could ask the person, “If I can prove that the majority of high school students are virgins, will you be abstinent?” <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">The most authoritative research on the sexual activity rates of high school students is the Youth Risk Behavior Survey conducted by the Centers for Disease Control. According to this nationwide survey of more than 150 high schools, only about <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">a third</span></b> of all students are currently sexually active. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Since 1991 teen sexual activity rates have been <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">dropping</span></b>, and now the majority of high school students are virgins.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">In fact, between 1991 and 2005 the sexual activity rate of high school boys dropped <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">twice as quickly</span></b> as that of high school girls! <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Non-virgins Regretted Having Sex Before Marriage </span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Among teens who have already lost their virginity, <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">two-thirds</span></b> of them wish they had waited longer to have sex (77 percent of girls and 60 percent of guys).<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">The trend toward <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">chastity</span></b> is well underway, even if you haven’t noticed it on your campus. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy surveyed teens from around the country, asking them if it was embarrassing for teens to admit that they are virgins. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Surprisingly, 87 percent of teens said <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">no</span></b>, it’s not embarrassing. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Most of those who said it was embarrassing were under the age of fifteen. Who most probably haven't really received much education on sex. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Only <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">5</span></b> percent of older teens (fifteen to seventeen years of age) thought virginity was an embarrassing admission.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Chastity is the new thing - Virginity Rocks!</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Despite the fact that these teens said virginity wasn’t something to be ashamed of, you don’t hear much about it because the sexually active students do all the talking. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">For some reason chastity gossip just doesn’t seem to spread as quickly. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">This gives the impression that “everyone is doing it,” when in reality the majority are not.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">You could also point out that the “everyone” who is “doing it” is also getting<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"> STDs</span></b>, that “everyone” is <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">breaking up</span></b> three weeks after they have sex, and “everyone” ends up getting <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">divorced</span></b> if they stay together long enough to get married. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">You are in no rush to join any of these crowds. Studies are more important first, sex can wait after marriage. Sex after marriage is more joyful and long-lasting. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">We all have a fear of not being accepted or of being a loner if we do not conform to the world. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">But you must hold out for the higher standard of love.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The bottom line is this: </span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">What is your motivation? </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">Is it to please God or to conform to the world and make life-changing decisions based on the opinions of classmates, most of whom you will probably never see again after graduation?</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Stay strong. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">You are <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">worth</span></b> the wait.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Besides, the world needs to see young people who are not <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">scared</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #e06666;"> </span></b>out of their minds to be chaste. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">This is something to be <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">proud</span></b> of, and if enough people on your campus realize this and have the courage to stand up, I would bet the saying “everyone is doing it” may eventually refer to </span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">chastity</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">.<o:p></o:p></span></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-8190714556281859742011-04-20T06:10:00.000-07:002011-04-21T06:02:47.468-07:00The Shocking Truth about Condoms<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The Lies about Condoms </span></b></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX_L4A_kAMhsS7WevvlzakP-KmAkllGj-Ksx2qtbsCxs4Y0915yDf_vkPTyiT5diB4Fkkya_gG4qJj7mB-kPHeiYnKMGVLqxNtmVrXAZFnXOQGXlTblr6ErSRKWbgDX-VgB_JGl63wzzEn/s320/condoms1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgX_L4A_kAMhsS7WevvlzakP-KmAkllGj-Ksx2qtbsCxs4Y0915yDf_vkPTyiT5diB4Fkkya_gG4qJj7mB-kPHeiYnKMGVLqxNtmVrXAZFnXOQGXlTblr6ErSRKWbgDX-VgB_JGl63wzzEn/s320/condoms1.jpg" /></a></div><blockquote>"Saying that the use of condoms is ‘safe sex’ is in fact playing Russian roulette. A lot of people will die in this dangerous game." Quote from: ¾ Dr. Teresa Crenshaw, member of the U.S. Presidential AIDS Commission and past president of the American Association of Sex Educators</blockquote><br />
<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Myth of Condom caused Unwanted Pregnancies </span></b><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">The myth of the protective properties of condoms is the one of the main reasons for the spread of venereal disease. Statistics show a shocking fact, with increased use of condoms, it dramatically increased diseases and unwanted pregnancies.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">Illegitimate births in sexually active young people increased by 29% despite 33% increase in condom use during sex.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Condoms are Failures </span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">Why? There are many reasons why condoms are unreliable. This video focuses on only one of them. Other than that penetration, manufacturing defects, aging, slipping, improper storage and many more also contribute to the hazardous of a condom. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="349" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/K3yUB_hMAmw?rel=0" title="YouTube video player" width="425"></iframe></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"></div></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">The main reason for the unreliability is the existence of small micro-pore holes whose size is larger than that of the HIV virus. <o:p></o:p></div></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">HIV is only 0.1 micrometre (1/1000 of a millimetre) while the pores in the structure of condoms is around 5 micrometre. This is 50 times larger than the HIV virus. The sperm is 3 micrometre. These super-small viruses can get through a hole in a condom much more easily than sperm can. Herpes also can easily penetrate through the pores of the condom. Many people do not know that some of the venereal diseases are transmitted through unobstructed condom. Some of them are not curable.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Skin to Skin can also transmit AIDS</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">Sexual Transmitted Diseases (STDs) are also frequently passed through "skin to skin" contact even when condoms are used. This can happen because the bacterial or viral germs that cause many serious STDs do not infect just one place on your body. <i>They may infect anywhere in the male or female genital areas.</i><o:p></o:p><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">So, even if the virus or bacteria isn't passed through tears or holes in the condom itself, you can still get diseases because condoms don't cover or protect all areas of the genital region. That means condoms don't prevent many of the STD infections that take place during sexual contact.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">WARNING: CONDOMS...</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">According to American researchers, the risk of AIDS infection with the use of condoms is 31%. Therefore, the Ministry of the U.S. medical industry requires manufacturers to affix warning required for their inefficiency. The warning on the packaging reads:<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">"<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">Warning condoms do not protect you from AIDS.</span>"<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;">In this sense, organizations and individuals who spread lies in the society for protective action of condoms irresponsible trick people and cause serious danger. <o:p></o:p></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-79756603386617453732011-04-20T05:33:00.000-07:002011-04-21T06:55:02.181-07:0010 Myths of Casual Sex<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbk9_6qYZr_xPkeOEAku97reZp0oV8-eqeBZK_4kGPy-CQbFRixRR0HZy_0Qn6O6REDNTIbhMpb10E-WamgZ3PCS6QdYldlACbx8QpGGTkfcXHoO2P-_vUmsqxUXIf8ZeedJlVY8shh2vo/s320/Romantic.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhbk9_6qYZr_xPkeOEAku97reZp0oV8-eqeBZK_4kGPy-CQbFRixRR0HZy_0Qn6O6REDNTIbhMpb10E-WamgZ3PCS6QdYldlACbx8QpGGTkfcXHoO2P-_vUmsqxUXIf8ZeedJlVY8shh2vo/s1600/Romantic.jpg" /></a></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: large;"><b>Myth #1:</b> <a href="http://puretruelove.blogspot.com/2011/04/is-everyone-doing-it.html">Everyone does it.</a></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #2: </b>The benefits outweigh the risks.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #3: </b><a href="http://puretruelove.blogspot.com/2011/04/shocking-truth-about-condoms.html">The best way to avoid unwanted pregnancies and HIV/AIDS is by practicing safe sex using a condom.</a><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #4: </b>There is no downside to having multiple sex partners throughout one's life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #5: </b>Its okay to have sex outside of marriage especially if there is intimacy.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #6:</b> Having an affair is a great way to spice up a dull marriage.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #7: </b>It is unrealistic to expect teenagers to abstain from sex until marriage since sexual intercourse is an unavoidable rite of passage.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #8: </b><a href="http://www.tenbiggestmyths.net/sexuality/casual.sex/8a.htm">Casual sex does not contribute to the destruction of the family and society.</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #9:</b> <a href="http://puretruelove.blogspot.com/2011/04/what-is-big-deal-about-sex.html">Sexual intercourse with multiple partners does not have long-term negative spiritual consequences.</a><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Myth #10:</b> <a href="http://www.tenbiggestmyths.net/sexuality/casual.sex/10a.htm">Loving someone is the only prerequisite to making love to someone.</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><br />
</span></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-78739962475107528922011-04-20T05:07:00.000-07:002011-04-21T20:20:30.577-07:00What is the Big Deal about Sex?<div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">Why does it <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">MATTER</span> if I have Sex, or not?</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://a323.yahoofs.com/phugc/6.sWeqVisHxD/photos/0f62c16d0db512489936ac110579bccf/mr_5f02b0e99dbe7b.jpg?ug_____DMk2hmVQz" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="http://a323.yahoofs.com/phugc/6.sWeqVisHxD/photos/0f62c16d0db512489936ac110579bccf/mr_5f02b0e99dbe7b.jpg?ug_____DMk2hmVQz" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">There </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">Are</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;"> Emotional Consequences of Premarital Sex</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Your sexuality is a huge part of who you are as a person.</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"></span></b></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">It is to be protected and safe-guarded for the good of your whole being, and only shared in a permanent, life-long, trusting, and committed monogamous relationship traditionally known as marriage. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">Otherwise, your whole being gets ripped and torn and you lose your identity as a unique person.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">No two people are exactly alike. Each of us is a unique, one-of-a-kind personality. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">And while every person will respond differently to situations and experiences, there are still many negative psychological consequences that most people experience to some degree when they engage in premarital sexual involvement.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;"><u>10 Negative Psychological Consequences of Premarital Sex:</u></span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">1.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> WORRY ABOUT PREGNANCY, STDs AND AIDS</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">For many people, this is a <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">major</span></b> emotional stress. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">Young sexual active people are worried and distracted each month that they might be pregnant, or might have caused pregnancy.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Girls often buy home pregnancy kits and have a great deal of anxiety in their day-to-day activities. It may be difficult to concentrate on schoolwork or sports.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">At least 50% of sexual active people will get a genital HPV. This STD (Sexual Transmitted Disease) is very contagious and it has <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><b>no</b></span> cure. HPV-related cancers might not have signs or symptoms until they are advanced and hard to treat. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">STDs are more than just an embarrassment. They're a <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><b>serious</b></span> health problem. If untreated, some STDs can cause permanent damage, such as infertility (the inability to have a baby) and even death (in the case of HIV/AIDS).</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">2.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> REGRET AND SELF-RECRIMINATION</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">"I get upset when I see my friends losing their virginity to some guy they've just met. Later, after the guy's dumped them, they come to me and say, 'I wish I <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">hadn't</span></b> done it.'"<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">A ninth-grade girl who slept with eight boys in junior high says, 'I'm young, but I feel old.'" Girls are more likely to see sex as a sign of commitment in the relationship. They often feel cheap and cheated.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">"I never imagined I'd pay so dearly and for so long. Sex <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">without</span></b> commitment is very risky for the heart." - a 33-year-old psychiatrist from personal experience</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;"> </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1qkGjd-WyJvO_LbRXmUmcvzbCCbFY8kXJhDdQTp15zNun9IoW9ZwxUe471VIUQvGTPrS_9AAbiuqNMABL_RVrcqPYfRzHOUF6bHG4meus202S8WHX44X0QuYGIouWmLVD1hzsKy2R51k/s1600/guilt.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="266" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi1qkGjd-WyJvO_LbRXmUmcvzbCCbFY8kXJhDdQTp15zNun9IoW9ZwxUe471VIUQvGTPrS_9AAbiuqNMABL_RVrcqPYfRzHOUF6bHG4meus202S8WHX44X0QuYGIouWmLVD1hzsKy2R51k/s400/guilt.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">3.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> GUILT</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Guilt is a special form of regret; it is a strong sense of having done something morally wrong. </span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;"><br />
</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;"></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">Morality refers to a code of behavior.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Guilt is a normal and healthy moral response, a sign that one's conscience is working.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Guilt may come from seeing the hurt one has caused other people by using them as sex objects.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Guilt may come from knowing your parents would be upset if they knew of your sexual involvement.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Guilt about sexual pasts can "<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">cripple</span></b>" people when they do get married, through flashbacks of previous sexual experiences.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">4.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> LOSS OF SELF RESPECT & SELF ESTEEM</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Many people suffer loss of self-respect when they <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">discover</span></b> they have a sexually transmitted disease. Most people have no idea how prevalent STDs are, believing they only are contracted by "low-life". When they become infected themselves, they feel very "dirty".<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Even <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">without</span></b> STD infection, temporary sexual relationships can lower the self-respect of both the user and the used. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">Casual sex <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">can</span></b> lower self-esteem, which leads a person into further casual sex, which leads to further loss of self-esteem in an oppressive cycle, which is hard to break.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">On both sides of dehumanized sex, there is a loss of dignity and self-worth.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">As one 20-year-old male confides: "You feel pretty crummy when you get drunk at a party and have sex with some girl, and then the next morning you can't even remember who she was.""<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Things are to be used and people are to be loved. People are <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">not</span></b> things. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">When we treat them as if they were, we <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">not</span></b> only hurt them; we lose respect for ourselves.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">5.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> THE CORRUPTION OF CHARACTER AND THE DEBASEMENT OF SEX</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">When people treat others as sexual objects and exploit them for their own pleasure, they <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">not</span></b> only lose self-respect; they corrupt their characters and debase their sexuality in the process. Good character consists of virtues such as respect, responsibility, honesty, fairness, caring, and self-control.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">With regard to sex, <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">self-control</span></b> is particularly crucial. The breakdown of sexual self-control is a big factor in many of the sex-related problems that plague our society: rape, promiscuity, pornography, apiction to sex, sexual harassment, sexual abuse of children, sexual infidelity in marriage, and more. It was Freud who was obviously correct when he said that sexual self-control is essential for civilization.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Once sexual restraint is removed, it easily takes over individuals and relationships, leading quickly to date rape, gangs requiring sexual touching and intercourse in order to "earn points", and a general disregard for individual privacy and modesty. In short, sex that is not tied to love and commitment undermines character by subverting self-control, respect, and responsibility. Unchecked, sexual desires and impulses run amok and lead to habits of hedonism and using others for one's personal pleasure. Sexual intercourse loses its meaning, beauty, and "<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">special</span></b>"ness. Instead of being a loving, uniquely intimate expression of two people's commitment to each other, sex is trivialized and degraded.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">6. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">SHAKEN TRUST & FEAR OF COMMITMENT</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Young people who feel used or betrayed after the break-up of a sexual relationship may experience <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">difficulty</span></b> in future relationships. Some develop a low self-esteem and they seek any type of attention, no matter how short-lived and demeaning; others withdraw and have trouble trusting any more.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">One young woman noted: "Besides feeling cheap [after several sexual relationships], I began to wonder if there would ever be <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">anyone</span></b> who would love and accept me without demanding that I do something with my body to 'earn' that love."<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Boys also experience loss of trust: "I'm afraid of falling in love."</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;"> </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUnUR2qmPzGCr-9MS1hGcBM-EqbIxPdeHY3cKT5gpY-y_L6TNMFnepZcfhyBohG0y-UgVUlnz99TOIvxLQMrBNS88Vxc776svHaK7We0bs4MI3GQekC7h-Daty_XCfNNT-_KWp_3mJ78mV/s1600/player1rage.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="300" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUnUR2qmPzGCr-9MS1hGcBM-EqbIxPdeHY3cKT5gpY-y_L6TNMFnepZcfhyBohG0y-UgVUlnz99TOIvxLQMrBNS88Vxc776svHaK7We0bs4MI3GQekC7h-Daty_XCfNNT-_KWp_3mJ78mV/s400/player1rage.gif" width="400" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">7.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> RAGE OVER BETRAYAL</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Sometimes the emotional reaction to being "dumped" isn't just a lack of trust or fear of commitment; but <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">rage</span></b>. The sense of betrayal is usually much greater if sex has been part of the relationship. Sex can be emotional <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">dynamite</span></b>.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">8. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">DEPRESSION AND SUICIDE</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Kieran Sawyer wrote: "The more the relationship seems like real love, the more the young person is likely to invest, and the deeper the pain and hurt if the relationship breaks up."<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Sometimes the rupture leads to deep depression that may lead, in turn, to <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">suicide</span></b>.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">In the past 25 years, teen suicide has <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">tripled</span></b>.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">In a 1988 survey by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 1 of 5 adolescent girls stated they had tried to kill themselves (1 of 10 for boys).<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">This is the same period during which the rate of teen sexual activity has sharply increased. Although there are certainly many causes, it is reasonable to suspect that the pain from such break-ups is a factor for some young people.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">9.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> RUINED RELATIONSHIPS</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Sex can cause another kind of emotional consequence by turning good relationships <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">bad</span></b>. Other dimensions of the relationship stop developing and negative emotions enter, such as anger, impatience, jealousy, and selfishness.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">10.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> STUNTING PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Premature sexual involvement can <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">not</span></b> only stunt the development of the relationship; it can also stunt one's development as a person. Some young people handle anxieties by turning to drugs and alcohol, while others turn to sex.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Sex becomes an <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">escape</span></b>. They do not learn how to cope with life's pressures.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Just at the time when young people should be reaching out to form new friendships, join clubs and teams, develop their interests and skills, and take on bigger responsibilities, they are instead turning inward, absorbed in intense sexual relationships.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">The failure to grow during these years will <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">affect</span></b> them all their lives; they may never develop their full potential.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Girls <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">especially</span></b>, tend to thwart their individuality, becoming part of the boy, gaining their self-worth from him. Girls can fail to develop their own interests and their own sense of independent identity.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Dr. Carson Daly, college counselor, comments:<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">"I don't think I ever met a student who was sorry he or she postponed sexual activity, but I certainly met many who deeply regretted their sexual involvements. Time and time again, I have seen the long-term emotional and spiritual desolation that results from casual sex and promiscuity.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">"No one ever tells students that it sometimes takes years to recover from the effects of these sexual involvements - if one ever fully recovers."<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Sex can certainly be a source of great pleasure and joy; but it can also be the source of deep wounds and suffering.</span></span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"></span></span></b></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;">We need to help and guide all young people to understand this. What makes the <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;">difference</span></b> is the type of relationship within which sexual activity occurs.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US;">Sex is most joyful and fulfilling - most emotionally and physically safe - when it occurs within a loving, total, and binding life-long commitment, historically called <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #cc0000;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">marriage</span></b></span>.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://istinskaliubov.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/masova-svatba-muun-masovi-svatbi-muun-bulgariq.jpg?w=645&h=282" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="175" src="http://istinskaliubov.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/masova-svatba-muun-masovi-svatbi-muun-bulgariq.jpg?w=645&h=282" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 16px;"><b>Sexual union is then part of something bigger - the union of two persons' lives.</b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: center;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: xx-small;">Thomas Lickona, Ph.D., Director of the Center for the 4th and 5th Rs (Respect and Responsibility), based in Cortland, NY. </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Family Federation Malaysiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15843839201068764833noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5902281505220398783.post-56784931746315619492011-03-07T02:53:00.000-08:002011-03-07T03:10:08.056-08:00Love Is The Supreme Value<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7YtqyC2-0M4L56U1tSA2poKLIJhnVDIms1sNw1Bgv-eI_Hgco0UFlAZGEqIAsGuaDFzolexqHhyphenhyphenlht8pYDrdyLVZnSrE3e1y7Aiu095OKSUfszdtfb35zTyA4MjcOQQ_hKrLzJbCpCg4y/s1600/Loveheart.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="196" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7YtqyC2-0M4L56U1tSA2poKLIJhnVDIms1sNw1Bgv-eI_Hgco0UFlAZGEqIAsGuaDFzolexqHhyphenhyphenlht8pYDrdyLVZnSrE3e1y7Aiu095OKSUfszdtfb35zTyA4MjcOQQ_hKrLzJbCpCg4y/s200/Loveheart.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">What do we value most in life? What makes us happy? Some will say "money and wealth." Others will respond without doubt: "Wisdom and knowledge." Some others again may suggest: "Power, position and fame." Are money, wealth, knowledge, power and fame then the most important things in our lives?</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">What if you were isolated?</span></b></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">When we face this question seriously, other thoughts may arise. There is no doubt that we all seek for wealth, knowledge, power and fame, which although valuable, in themselves are not the source of our happiness. Someone could have all the wealth in the world, as well as knowledge but, if obliged to live in isolation, such a person would not be happy. Goals such as money, wealth, knowledge, power and fame, only have meaning and value when they are shared or used for the benefit of others.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Would you exchange Money for Love?</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">We are happy when we can share our position, wealth, knowledge or anything of value that we possess, with other people. If someone would offer you billions of dollars, as well as knowledge and power in exchange for your loving spouse, parents or children, would you sell them? Would you be happy afterwards? Only when we have harmonious relationships of true love with others, can experience the greatest happiness.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><b>Love is the most precious! </b></span><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Consequently, happiness requires a relationship with someone and this is true as much for God as for man. Therefore, we have to come to the conclusion that what is most precious in life, is love. No amount of money, power or knowledge can ever match the infinite power of true love. It does not matter how long we live: our biological existence does not have value unless we experience love.</span></div><div class="MsoNoSpacing" style="text-align: justify; text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><br />
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